Something funny happened today.
I brought my large laundry basket filled with clothes to be folded to the living room, so that I could sort while catching up with Mr.X, who had just come in from work. I placed this ginormous load of laundry in between me and Mr.X, and started bulldozing my mountain.
Shortly after I started folding, my little madam brought her Junior Encyclopedia our way. She said she wanted her dad to read to her. Me ehn, I was enjoying the gist Mr.X was giving, and I was quite irritated that this babe chose this time to be asking for her favorite book to be read to her.
She looked at the basket, and lamented about not being able to reach her dad. Mind you, there were at least three other ways to reach him o. I told her in my most gentle voice (that was really hard by the way) to find the other ways to reach her dad. The babe got upset and was lamenting. Ehn, she can’t find another way, ehn this basket sef is too big sef, ehn I should move it now. Me, I saw it as an avenue to teach her to use her eyes and brain to find alternatives! (Life skill coach that I am abi! 😉 )
This madam sat on the floor lamenting. After a while, she saw her dad and I weren’t paying her any attention, so she carried her big book, and jejely (gently) went to the couch to sulk! The challenge to find another way to get herself and her beloved book to her father was over; she couldn’t come and be looking in not so obvious places for a path, neither did she have the tenacity to create one for herself.
This got me thinking… As usual 😎
With all my many moves, there have been so many times of unhappiness and disgruntlement because it has looked like the path that I had planned in order to reach my destination has been barricaded. Over the years, I have sat in front of that barricade and cried, lamented, thrown a fantastic pity party with lots of rice and chocolate, thrown in some holy malice. In all of this, I have simply refused to look past the barricade(s)! Like my big sis E will say, I have been stuck! That “stuckness” ehn, it has been of my own doing, and no one else’s.
Ok o… So, I know I had so and so plans for me. Now that I have found myself where I am, do I think those plans can still not unfold? Why am I feeling so sorry for myself? What avenues around me can get me to my end goal? What resources around me can I make use of now, that I probably won’t have had, had I not been in this location? Is the “basket” blocking my way something that can be tilted, lifted or broken? Can I still pass the same way I had originally planned by asking for help, talking with the person manning the “basket”? Oya, time to go dust my journal, think, and map put a plan. My dreams will surely come true, irrespective of my location 🙂
Like they say, only one road no dey lead to market! ( There are many ways to get to a destination). 😛
P.S: Abeg don’t mind my emoticons. I am just learning how to get those done with my laptop. I know.. I know… I am not too tech savvy. Working on me!