Hi my lovely people!
Anyway, Ice cream finished before I could binge on a whole season of Designated Survivor. When I was done mindlessly watching TV to numb myself, I carried my spoon, empty ice cream bowl and self up, and went to sleep. What else could I do???
The following weeks were CRAZY! Plenty happened. Seeking counsel from, and pouring out my heart to my closest friends and family, tying up lots of loose ends for the business, telling our friends about the move, telling mini me, traveling home for a party, long chats with the hubby, discussions with our marriage mentors, packing, surprise goodbye events organized by my friends, such an endless list of things…But what was most important for me was negotiating terms of this move with Mr.X. Over the past decade, I have taken news of our move(s), and not carefully considered my own state of mind, needs and desires. All I have focused on is Mr.Wonderful and our kids! How noble right? Na lie..🙄🙄🙄 Nobody gets brownie points for not considering their own happiness.
This time, I decided to look out for me. Just a little at least.😊 I had a long discussion with the Mr. We went back and forth, negotiated, and then settled on some of the things I wanted. You know after this, I had to give myself a pat on the back! Bros is smart, sharp, thinks so fast on his feet! Choi! Many times, it’s so hard to keep up with him! This time, I tried hard to stay in charge of the discussion, logically talk about how I arrived at my needs and wants, and how they were highly important for my happiness and sanity in our new location.
Have I got all we agreed on just yet? Nope! But it’s all work in progress. I simply feel proud of myself for looking out for ME for the first time in a long time!💃🏻💃🏻💃🏻💃🏻
18 thoughts on “And after the ice cream comes reality!”
This is such a beautiful piece to wake up to. How can we even desire for there to be a difference when we make no demands? Go girl! I AM PROUD OF YOU TOO and guess what? Mr X is proud of you too. I look forward to many great news.
Thanks so much babes! God help us!🙏🏽😘
MrsX, such a delightfully witting and entertaining piece! I’m glad you looked out for yourself a little. No doubt the past few months have been a whirl wind and now I hope you get some down time. Can’t wait to read your next post!!
Thank you!!! The last months have been truly a whirlwind! I look forward to finding me, writing more, and just dwelling in the present. You will hear from me soon!❤️
Well done Mrs. X! Although it’s tough to negotiate sometimes, if we are not specific about our needs, it’s easy for people to assume we’re okay. Cheers to more moments of thinking of/advocating for yourself. Lots of love to you dear.
Thanks so much sis. I will keep working on advocating for my own needs, and putting my sanity at the forefront also.❤️
Omo na you first ooooo, if you are okay mentally then you can be a great support system to your loved ones. Nice piece.
I totally agree! Thanks luv!
Fight for your happiness!
Way to go Mrs X
So proud of you for standing up for yourself and putting yourself first! Sometimes its necessary. You deserve that happiness 🙂 Love of love! xxx
Thanks luv! I need to always remember that I deserve happiness too, while I try dishing it out to other people😁
So profound! “No one gets brownie points for not considering their own happiness” – Eek! SO inspired by you! You go, Mrs. X 👏🏾
YOU inspire me my darling!!! You know how much you mean to me. Thank you for always being there to listen, and then asking if I really want to hear a piece of advise or deep question.😁😘
Love love love this. I wish this had been me 10 years ago. It’s taken me soo long to finally step up and accept that I (yes, me) deserve certain terms that will put me first too. How many times we get up, dust ourselves off, smile, put others first and ‘grin and bear it’, yet all the while our identity is fading. And it’s never to say that family isn’t important – not at all. BUT SO ARE WE. So are we. Let this new chapter be the start to rediscovering you and your passions, girl. And holler if you need a buddy to share that tub of ice cream with 😀 xx
I have so much to learn from you!I am coming to see you with my pen and journal in hand.😂i am excited God has made our paths cross in this new season of mine! I am excited.😁💃🏻💃🏻
I feel you on the negotiation especially when you have a Bros like you said who is smart, sharp, thinks so fast on his feet! Plus I think by default we look out for everyone else except for our self. Good job on that!!! I have come to realize I cannot look out and take care of the ones I love if I don’t look out and take care of myself… at least that’s the pep talk I give to myself when I feel like I am feeling ‘guilty’ 😀 😀 😀
🤣🤣🤣Sis, I felt guilty as I was negotiating. Being tougher than one usually is can be hard! I felt I was being selfish. I felt I wasn’t acting right. It all didn’t feel like me. I had to pray after. If negotiating for myself is being selfish, then I want to be more selfish.🙈🙈🙈
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